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The happy pill-Laughter in Marriage

“I found my happy pill the day I met you”. Is it weird that I thought of pumpkin cake after typing out that statement!? Oh well, as much as I love pumpkin cake, that statement was meant for my husband πŸ™‚

Laughing with my husband brings an immense amount of joy to our lives and laughter is the happy pill in our marriage. A study by Laura E. Kurtz suggested that couples that laughed together had a much stronger relationship than those that did not. This article will cover ways in which Laughter is beneficial to your marriage and ways to incorporate it in your marriage.

Laughter is a Conflict Neutralizer

Conflict in marriage is inevitable. But saying that does not mean that it’s okay to have conflicts all the time. There are different ways of resolving conflicts in marriage and laughter is one of them! When my husband David says or does something that offends me, he does this weird dance move, it’s like Michael Jackson had a baby with that Gangnam Style Singer, forgot his name, I think Psy and my husband is the baby. It’s hilarious, I always try not to laugh but the more I try not to the more I laugh! After that, it gets easier for us to talk about whatever it was that offended me. Honestly, sometimes we don’t even talk about it until the following day.

Laughing reminds me that joy in my marriage is more important than whatever it is that I was upset about. He also does this thing with his face, oh my, let me not go there. Next time when you’re having a conflict with your partner, try humor as a way of softening the ground. But again, this is all assuming you know your partners’ limits and know what kind of humor to work with and which not to. If not, this approach could go really wrong.

Laughter is a Stress Reliever

The world we live in today is full of events that cause stress to our lives. It could be your work is too demanding or you just don’t like your boss, financial constraints, whatever it is that causes you stress, could have a negative impact on your marriage.

Proverbs 17:22 says that a joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Having a joyful marriage as a result of laughter could be just what your heart needs. Scientists have proven that Laughter is indeed the best medicine for the heart. It stabilizes your stress levels and even improves your immunity! There are so many articles out there covering this topic and I would encourage you to look them up.

There’s even a Yoga technique called Laughter Yoga that employs Laughing as part of their depression & stress reduction technique! I know!

Laughter brings Closeness

When couples laugh together, they develop a unique closeness that makes them inseparable. This can in turn improve their communication skills due to the bond created. And we all know that open communication is key to a happy marriage. A happy marriage results to a happy wife, and you know what they say about a happy wife, happy wife happy husband!

Closeness in marriage leads to an increased intimacy with your partner. This is when your partner knows and accepts you for who you are. This requires a level of trust that’s generated from having open communication.

Laughing with your wife/husband increases your love and desire for them. You long to spend more time with them, since they make you at ease and remind you the joys of marriage. Your Spouse becomes more than a Spouse to you but also a friend. When you’re apart from them, your heart longs to see them again. You learn to forgive each other despite the hurt. Ruth Graham said, ” A happy marriage is the union of two forgivers”. That’s the beauty of love built on a happy marriage.

Laughter improves relationships with In-Laws

I know this is a tough one to crack. But when you get it just right, it will improve your relationship with the In-Laws. Laughter relieves tension, makes everyone relax and have a good time. Through laughter, you get to have a great time with your partners’ family and in turn share stories and events that build trust and eventually a solid friendship.

The easiest thing to do is to make my husband laugh. If laughter was produced in a processing company, my husband would be that company. He is the happy pill during family gatherings. When he first met my Dad, he made my Dad feel like he was the funniest man alive. They had and still have a good time together. Next time during your next family gathering, try humor to ease up the tension. The right kind of humor, I repeat, the right Kind of Humor!!

Ways to Bring laughter to your Marriage

  • The 1st thing to do is to understand what your Spouse finds humor in. Once you figure this out, it will become easier to bring laughter to their lives. Have inside jokes that only the two of you understand.
  • Be aware of your surroundings. Be on the look out for small opportunities that can be used to bring humor to your marriage.
  • Be considerate. I say this to mean, don’t use humor for your own gratification. Ensure that your focus is on bringing joy to your Spouse which will in turn bring joy to you. This all goes down to being selfless.
  • Don’t take life too Seriously. Life can wear you down sometimes. And it’s easy for life to take the glimmer out of your eyes. Well, don’t let it! Know when to take a break from life’s seriousness and enjoy a happy pill. I mean, bring laughter to your life.
  • Learn to Laugh even if you don’t find the joke funny. I do this to my husband all the time, he hates being tickled. He knows when I’m about to do it and gives me a serious look. “Please don’t do it”, he says. Oh well, I’m stubborn so I still do it. His reaction cracks me up, he laughs so hard, it’s the cutest thing ever!

I hope this article gave you a few ideas that you can use to bring a smile on your partners’ life. Remember, Laughter is not only a free happy pill but it’s good for the soul.

I would highly recommend reading the book below with your Spouse and get to laugh along other couples sharing ways in which they experience humor in their marriages.

 

Kindly comment below and let us know ways in which you and Spouse bring laughter to your marriage.

Esther
I enjoy Travelling, Pet sitting, Cooking and Writing about marriage related topics. Bringing joy to peoples' lives gives me great pleasure. Above all, I would be lost if I didn't have Jesus in my life! I'm excited about this site and will be adding new content regularly! If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to leave them in the comment box below or send me an email at esther@marriagestore.org and I will get back to you :-)

22 thoughts on “The happy pill-Laughter in Marriage”

  1. This is the sweetest! I agree with you. Laughter is supposed to lengthen our lives and keep us healthy. It is definitely a must have in a marriage. Gosh, it’s sad that there are marriages that don’t have a lot of laughter. Life is too short and precious to not include fun, happy — many moments. You and your husband look adorable and happy. Thank you so much for this.

    1. Thank you for the comment Jacquie!! Life is indeed too short and we need to enjoy every moment we have with the ones we love πŸ™‚

  2. Great article. Laughing helps in all kinds of ways. I’m not married, but I can see where this would really help to lighten things up when tense. I know it boosts my serotonin and puts me in a better mood after I’ve had a good laugh. Thank you for sharing this! πŸ˜†

  3. Thanks for your heart warming article!! When we are busy and stressed and tired out we seem to forget about this. Or somehow it becomes more difficult – but it shouldn’t. Thank you for the lovely reminder. When my kids dance there is absolutely no way I can be cross, and we all end up laughing. Such a natural way to de-stress and reconnect.
    Thanks

    1. Melissa, the one thing I’m looking forward to is becoming a Mum! I can’t wait to play and laugh with my kids! I’m so glad that you have that with your kids, it’s priceless πŸ™‚ Thank you!

  4. Wonderful refreshing post. Me and my spouse actually read this together and it was magnificent. Keep putting out great content like this I love it.

    1. Thank you for reading the article Frank, I’m glad it refreshed you and your spouse πŸ™‚ And remember to make your spouse laugh as often as possible πŸ™‚

  5. What a beautiful post, I do not have enough laughter in my relationship with my wife or my family for that matter. Bring on the laughter and joy that comes with it. Laughter melts all the negativity away out there in our world.

    1. Hey Allan, I’m sorry to hear that you don’t have enough laughter with your wife. It’s never too late to bring that glimmer of light back, give it a try, Baby steps, start small and you will see the fruits of your effort. I’m sure you remember what used to make her laugh, revive that joy Allan πŸ™‚

  6. I felt happy too reading your article. I love laughing as well and finding a partner who enjoys the same, who doesn’t take life as serious as it is already and find joy in doing things together is a great blessing. I’m not married yet but this is one thing I will remember and consider once it’s about to happen. More blessings on your marriage! I’m happy for you!

    1. Thank you for reading the article, I’m wishing you all the best and pray that you find a partner that you can laugh and enjoy this life together!

  7. Thank you so much for such an uplifting article. My husband and I will be married 53 years on 24th July. Sadly he has Lewy Body disease and is in full-time Frail Care but when I see him he always greets me with a smile. He has a great sense of humour which stood us in good stead throughout our marriage.

    1. Thank you Jill, that’s really beautiful that you have been married for 53 years!! It’s couples like you and your husband that remind us young people that marriage is beautiful and worth everything we put in it! I’m sorry that your husband is sick though, but I’m glad he gives you a smile everyday! And that you have your daughter and grand kids to walk with you through this tough time. The world needs people like you Jill

  8. Hi,
    I completely agree that a laugher is very important, not only in marriage but in any human interaction. I think no one likes to stay close to a grumpy person, and this can ruin any relationship.
    Thanks for your opening my eyes to this important topic.
    All the best

    Stefan

  9. Yes, Yes, Yes! I love articles that highlight the importance of laughter and positive thinking. There’s no better medicine or cure or wellness habit than the simple act of laughter. Priceless!
    Great read, Esther!

    1. Thank you Andrea! For sure, it’s highly likely that we can laugh our way out of any sickness πŸ™‚ Especially if it has to do with the state of our heart

  10. I loved your article! Although I’m not married myself I agree the laughter can cure the worst days. I can only imagine what it can do for a marriage. Thank you for sharing and I now have a place I can come to when I am planning to settle down.

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