“I found my happy pill the day I met you”. Is it weird that I thought of pumpkin cake after typing out that statement!? Oh well, as much as I love pumpkin cake, that statement was meant for my husband 🙂
Laughing with my husband brings an immense amount of joy to our lives and laughter is the happy pill in our marriage. A study by Laura E. Kurtz suggested that couples that laughed together had a much stronger relationship than those that did not. This article will cover ways in which Laughter is beneficial to your marriage and ways to incorporate it in your marriage.
Laughter is a Conflict Neutralizer
Conflict in marriage is inevitable. But saying that does not mean that it’s okay to have conflicts all the time. There are different ways of resolving conflicts in marriage and laughter is one of them! When my husband David says or does something that offends me, he does this weird dance move, it’s like Michael Jackson had a baby with that Gangnam Style Singer, forgot his name, I think Psy and my husband is the baby. It’s hilarious, I always try not to laugh but the more I try not to the more I laugh! After that, it gets easier for us to talk about whatever it was that offended me. Honestly, sometimes we don’t even talk about it until the following day.
Laughing reminds me that joy in my marriage is more important than whatever it is that I was upset about. He also does this thing with his face, oh my, let me not go there. Next time when you’re having a conflict with your partner, try humor as a way of softening the ground. But again, this is all assuming you know your partners’ limits and know what kind of humor to work with and which not to. If not, this approach could go really wrong.
Laughter is a Stress Reliever
The world we live in today is full of events that cause stress to our lives. It could be your work is too demanding or you just don’t like your boss, financial constraints, whatever it is that causes you stress, could have a negative impact on your marriage.
Proverbs 17:22 says that a joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. Having a joyful marriage as a result of laughter could be just what your heart needs. Scientists have proven that Laughter is indeed the best medicine for the heart. It stabilizes your stress levels and even improves your immunity! There are so many articles out there covering this topic and I would encourage you to look them up.
There’s even a Yoga technique called Laughter Yoga that employs Laughing as part of their depression & stress reduction technique! I know!
Laughter brings Closeness
When couples laugh together, they develop a unique closeness that makes them inseparable. This can in turn improve their communication skills due to the bond created. And we all know that open communication is key to a happy marriage. A happy marriage results to a happy wife, and you know what they say about a happy wife, happy wife happy husband!
Closeness in marriage leads to an increased intimacy with your partner. This is when your partner knows and accepts you for who you are. This requires a level of trust that’s generated from having open communication.
Laughing with your wife/husband increases your love and desire for them. You long to spend more time with them, since they make you at ease and remind you the joys of marriage. Your Spouse becomes more than a Spouse to you but also a friend. When you’re apart from them, your heart longs to see them again. You learn to forgive each other despite the hurt. Ruth Graham said, ” A happy marriage is the union of two forgivers”. That’s the beauty of love built on a happy marriage.
Laughter improves relationships with In-Laws
I know this is a tough one to crack. But when you get it just right, it will improve your relationship with the In-Laws. Laughter relieves tension, makes everyone relax and have a good time. Through laughter, you get to have a great time with your partners’ family and in turn share stories and events that build trust and eventually a solid friendship.
The easiest thing to do is to make my husband laugh. If laughter was produced in a processing company, my husband would be that company. He is the happy pill during family gatherings. When he first met my Dad, he made my Dad feel like he was the funniest man alive. They had and still have a good time together. Next time during your next family gathering, try humor to ease up the tension. The right kind of humor, I repeat, the right Kind of Humor!!
Ways to Bring laughter to your Marriage
- The 1st thing to do is to understand what your Spouse finds humor in. Once you figure this out, it will become easier to bring laughter to their lives. Have inside jokes that only the two of you understand.
- Be aware of your surroundings. Be on the look out for small opportunities that can be used to bring humor to your marriage.
- Be considerate. I say this to mean, don’t use humor for your own gratification. Ensure that your focus is on bringing joy to your Spouse which will in turn bring joy to you. This all goes down to being selfless.
- Don’t take life too Seriously. Life can wear you down sometimes. And it’s easy for life to take the glimmer out of your eyes. Well, don’t let it! Know when to take a break from life’s seriousness and enjoy a happy pill. I mean, bring laughter to your life.
- Learn to Laugh even if you don’t find the joke funny. I do this to my husband all the time, he hates being tickled. He knows when I’m about to do it and gives me a serious look. “Please don’t do it”, he says. Oh well, I’m stubborn so I still do it. His reaction cracks me up, he laughs so hard, it’s the cutest thing ever!
I hope this article gave you a few ideas that you can use to bring a smile on your partners’ life. Remember, Laughter is not only a free happy pill but it’s good for the soul.
I would highly recommend reading the book below with your Spouse and get to laugh along other couples sharing ways in which they experience humor in their marriages.
Kindly comment below and let us know ways in which you and Spouse bring laughter to your marriage.