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Why some people gain weight after marriage

Now this is an interesting topic to talk about… Before we proceed, I need you to know that there is nothing wrong with weight gain as long as you’re healthy and within a good Body Mass Index score. I’ve been married for a year now and so far I’ve gained 6 pounds. My husband has gained 18 pounds. It doesn’t sound too bad numerically, but it’s more visible physically 🙂 But then again, I may just be over exaggerating. Bringing it back, I forgot where I was going with this…

There are so many factors that attribute to gaining weight after marriage. Not all couples gain weight after marriage. Some maintain their weight and a few even lose it.

A lot changes when you get married.  These changes could be the reason for weight gain.

Below we’ll talk more about the different changes that come with marriage and how these might affect your weight.

Couch Potato
                         Couch Potato Couple

Married couples spend all their extra time together.

Well, if you are like my husband and I, you spend time together cooking a good meal, laying around on the couch watching Lost or reading a book and hanging out with other people (Either eating out or having a home made meal). All theses are awesome ways of spending time together, but if not controlled could lead to weight gain. We do have some good days when we go out for a run in the park. Don’t tell anyone, but we signed up for a gym membership and ended up canceling it after 3 months. At least we tried right?

The causes above could boil down to your Spouse’s love language. Feeling loved when you serve them, spend time with them, affirm them and giving them gifts. As far as our love language go, my love language is service. I enjoy serving my husband in various ways. One of them is making sure that he never skips a meal and that his plate is always full 🙂 Blame it on the Africa in me! My husband’s love language is physical touch and spending quality time together. One of his favorite things is sitting down together and talking over a good meal.

Cook bigger meals

I love cooking, but only if I’m making a meal for someone else. Before I got married, I rarely cooked unless I was with my family or friends. When alone, I cooked small meals, by small I mean, real small. I always ate such a small amount of food for some weird reason. I even skipped meals, which is totally unhealthy. My parents would complain all the time when they saw the amount of food I was eating. My mum kept saying, “If you keep doing this you will end up looking like a spoon!”

Now, I cook meals meant for 4 people every time I’m cooking for David. This leads  to us eating more than we did when we were single. I’m sure this is the case for most couples. I really hope I’m not alone 🙂

A diminished Self-Care

Once married, some people tend to get comfortable. We let lose. We tell ourselves that we don’t have to “dress to impress” anymore. This might lead to a lackadaisical attitude. This mostly happens with people who decide to be healthy for all the wrong reasons.

For instance, a guy can eat healthy meals and go to the gym thinking that his healthy, muscular body will be the reason a girl he likes will go out with him. Chances are, after they get married he will slack and decide, “Oh well, I married the girl, so what’s the point of eating healthy or going to the gym?”


Child Bearing 

Post-pregnancy weight is unavoidable unless you go on a diet and exercise. It’s commonly said that as you get older it gets harder to lose weight. Weight gain happens most times because mothers have less time to cook healthy meals and exercise. They are busy taking care of their kids and put the kids’ needs first before everything else! Which I think is totally awesome! I can’t really speak much on this, let me wait until I’m a mother.


Sleep Deprivation

Studies have shown that sleep deprivation leads to a greater chance of weight gain. The following could attribute to sleep deprivation among married couples.

Differences in couples’ sleeping schedule, taking care of an infant, loud snoring, your Spouse stealing the blankets (guilty), talking late at night (guilty) and unresolved marital disputes leading to overthinking.

Ways of Controlling weight gain in Marriage (Handle the love handles)

As married couples, we should look for alternative ways of spending quality time together. We should incorporate cooking healthy meals and going out for walks into our schedule.

If need be, couples can even go on a diet together. If only one partner is on a diet, the success rate of the diet plan is low. But if you and your Spouse walk through the dieting journey together, chances are you’ll accomplish your weight goals. There are so many healthy eating cookbooks out there with great recipes you can both try together!

Like I said, I can’t speak much on the post-pregnancy weight gain. I’ve seen women struggle to lose it for years! I know that everything is possible. I also know that if losing it turns out to be too difficult, the joy your little ones bring to your life makes it all worth it!

If you’re a mum of a little baby, try to fit in a few power naps to ensure you get enough sleep. If your partner snores, check out my previous article on Remedies for a snoring spouse. To reduce stress related to marital disputes, I’ve found that good communication and forgiveness is key.

I would love to hear from you. What other reasons could lead to weight gain? And what tips do you have for other couples out there?

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2 thoughts on “Why some people gain weight after marriage”

  1. This is awesome. I am one of those people who can’t stand an extra pound. After I got my baby I gained a lot of weight but guess what, it’s all gone:-) and am back to my pre-pregnancy weight. Great article on weight matters!!

    1. Thank you Jemmimah for taking the time to read the article. I’m so glad you liked it. I really hope it will help many men and women out there.

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